Learning to be a Submissive Wife

Okay there are one of two reactions people have when they hear someone say they are a submissive wife. First: Are you out of your mind? How could you let some man tell you what to do all the time and then do it? Second: You mean as in BDSM and all that kinky spanking and handcuffing? That is just way too kinky for me.

So how about a new third version? How about — Wow, that sounds different. How does that work and do you enjoy being a bedroom submissive? And that is where Roadie and I are in our exploration of him taking the Dominant role and me the submissive in the bedroom. You see, after 25+ years of marriage, he is comfortable with my strong will and need to control. For years due to his life in music and theater tours, I had to take control of everything. So when it came to the bedroom, we naturally more or less shared control.

That is until one day I opened my mind and started pondering all my deep, hidden fantasies and my unspoken truths. It is here that I began to understand my desire to become a submissive wife in the bedroom. Here’s a secret for the men: Most women won’t admit this, but one of the top fantasies of women is to have their partners take control of them sexually. We want our husbands/lovers to desire us at all times and to take advantage when they choose. We don’t want to control what happens all the time and most of all, we don’t want the role-playing and games to be all our doing. We want our men to be strong.

So, as I mentioned in my first post about this new submissive discovery, Roadie and I are just learning how to be Dominant/submissive (D/s). We finished reading the book: The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren. Which has some great insights into the traditional and not so traditional ways to be a D/s couple. They offer great suggestions on contracts, role playing and discovery.

Yet, what we are discovering is that this is much harder than you would think. Surprisingly, Roadie is having trouble understanding that it is okay to push me in a corner and tear my panties, or demand that I service him. While I am also having trouble not scoffing at his demands and making excuses. D/s is a harder dance than you would think.

So we are starting over and taking one of the first steps from The Loving Dominant book to schedule the first of our discovery sessions. This is were Roadie will take me into the bedroom and blind fold me, perhaps tie me too. Then while he is playing and manipulating with me, I have to tell him my deepest darkest sexual fantasies. I get wet just thinking about it and I hope Roadie discovers and controls the submissive wife that is just waiting for him to take her.

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